Asking for financial help and donations for our adoption is a humbling experience. In our pride, we would love to be able to say that we have planned and put away money for adoption for years, and we’ve got this! That is probably the way we would have tried to go about it, had we done the planning. However, this adoption didn’t come about in our human planning ways. God stepped in, and asked us to step out in faith in a BIG way. Many big ways, actually – not just financial ones.
Our soon-to-be-son has a lot of serious health issues – this was something we had never even considered being open to in the past. He speaks Chinese, and as far as we know – no English. Also something we had never considered being open to in the past. With his health conditions, there is the possibility he might never be able to live on his own and be an independent adult. Again, something we never thought we would even consider being open to. Not to mention all of the issues that can arise with a child who has lived most of their life in an institution. Turning back to the financial aspect of it – saying yes, and jumping into the process of adopting a child when we had not in any way prepared financially for – also something we had never considered doing in the past.
One thing alone overruled all of these things – a very clear direction from the Lord that He desired for us to say YES. Yes to this precious boy He created and loves. Yes to his health issues, yes to the language barrier, yes to the possibility of having a child who never leaves home, yes to trusting the Lord to provide all of the money needed to bring him home. Yes to every unknown, good or bad. Yes – Even though we don’t have all the answers, we don’t have it perfectly planned out, we don’t know the future of our son’s health, or our family, we don’t have $40,000 set aside, ready to cover all of the adoption and travel expenses.
This is a huge leap of faith for us. We believe with all of our hearts that God has this covered! He has planned for this child to be in our family, and He is working out every single detail along the way. Saying yes was definitely not an easy thing. It took a lot of prayer, a lot of discussion, a lot of surrendering our wills to the Lord. But oh the joy of saying yes, and following the Lord’s direction and leading in your life. Laying down our comfort, pride, and selfishness to say yes, Lord (even though it feels scary) – whatever you have for us. Seriously indescribable! And the best part is, I know, that those joys have only just begun!
We have just started the fundraising for this adoption, and already the Lord has used it to humble me in ways I did not expect. The generosity of friends and even total strangers in just these few days, has completely blown me away! In my human nature, it is hard not to feel guilty when someone gives to our adoption fund when I know there is a good chance they don’t have the extra money to give right now, but they give it is freely and joyfully anyway! Amazing! It’s bringing me to tears again, as I type this! Blows my mind, and convicts me to be a more generous giver too. Take my little niece, for example, who wants to donate her three-story doll house to our garage sale fundraiser, to help bring her new cousin home – talk about a sweet little generous heart! Then there are the young girls from our church who are planning to host a bake sale at our garage sale! Even people I’ve never met, but who have heard about Whittingham’s story, have been praying he would find a family, and who are so excited, that even though they don’t know us, have given to help him come home. Amazing sweetness and generosity all around – and it humbles me, and brings out so much thankfulness to the Lord for all of the amazing ways and people he is using to provide the funds to bring our son home!
This whole adoption process so far has been indescribably humbling, scary, and hard, while all at the same time is filled with amazing joy, growth in faith, and just feeling so much closer to the Lord. It is bringing us so far outside of our own comfort, but in ways that the Lord is using to grow us and bring us closer to Him. It is truly awesome! And the best part is, it’s only just begun. I can’t wait to see all the things the Lord does throughout this process – in the lives of all people this adoption touches, in our own lives, and especially, in the life of our new son!